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Perturbed with the Church

I read on facebook that one of the victims in the Orlando club shooting spree was a loyal, tithe paying, church member and now his church will not funeralize him because they found out he was gay. I heard he sang in the choir most Sundays and had a been a member for years. I am quite interested to know what you think about this situation.

--Perturbed with the Church

Dear Perturbed with the Church,

There have been sissies since the beginning of time! As long as I can remember, the church has funeralized the thief, the liar, the adulterers, rapist, the drug dealer, the drunkard, the murderers, the homosexual and the heterosexual. Sometimes that included the minster. I believe a sin is a sin and we shouldn’t think we are better than anyone else because they sin differently or because we have recently cleaned up our sinful ways and was not revealed. A lot of us should stop and shout right now,“Thank you Lord for allowing me to be faultless in the eyes of man” because everyone has fallen short in the eyes of God. I believe it is not the ministers place to judge, but to teach preach and share the Good News of God and bring forth His new messages.

The church should not be a place of judgement but a refuge for the troubled soul. It’s a place where you can decipher what’s right and wrong from being inspired by the stories of David, Jonah, Mary the prostitute, Moses, the woman with the issue of blood, the good Samaritan and the leper. Then, applying those lessons to the situations in our lives. The church should be a place where you “comes as you are” with all your imperfections and learn how to get it right, coming out better than you were when you first surrendered your life to God. It should be a place where you can share an effervescent experience with people who are wanting the same thing as you, “a closer walk with thee (almighty God).”

The church is God’s house (my father’s house) here on earth where Christians or want to be Christians come to hear the Good News of God and learn about his son Jesus who came with the sweetest message of all times, “Whosoever believeth in Him, shall not perish but have everlasting life.” The operative word in this sentence is who so ever. That’s everyone and anyone desiring a change, including you and I. The church is a place where I can lay my burdens down at the alter, a place of peace and comfort like resting in the arms of my father. If your church is not all these things for you, maybe you need to find you a new church. There are plenty in the Bay Area and in the Gospel Guide for you to visit.

For all of you dealing with parental acceptance of your behaviors, as a mother, aunt, friend, God mother and sociologist, I can state with confidence that all parents want their boys to be boys and girls to be girls. All parents want their children to be smart, strong and healthy with a good quality life. If the child is anything short of that, Yes, it is a disappointment for the parent and hard to accept. However, that does not mean that they don’t still love you. They may be a bit ashamed of you, feeling you are the evidence that they have failed you in some way. People feel their child’s choices is a reflection of their home or environment and it often is. Know that you may not have been born in the best situation but our God is such a just God that he has given you something so magnificent, that if polished, it will over shine all your imperfections. Don’t listen to me, get somewhere quiet on a regular basis to pray and listen to God.

Church people and ministers are human. They make bad decisions but can be forgiven. So no matter the outcome of this funeral, do not let this be the reason you leave the church. Satan has used the ploy of dividing God’s people since the beginning of time. It’s the Divide and Conquer strategy. Do not be divided from the church and conquered. Be forgiving and forgiven!

Tampa Bay Tammy

Tampa Bay Tammy is COO of N-TOUCH News. She gives advice through her column Dear Girlfriend to entertain and enlighten her readers from near and far. 

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